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Why it’s hard to just listen

I sometimes find it hard to listen, as in just listen, for a simple reason: 

I have the feeling that if I don’t interrupt or at least comment when something is said with which I don’t agree, I agree by default.*
It gets even worse if the person talking to me unconsciously inserts some “… you know (what I mean)”  here and there.

Now that being said, I do make an effort to let you finish your point without interrupting. However, if I don’t take notes I can only keep quiet for so long.
If you intend to just talk for a while –and want me to just listen– , I actually do wonder why you’re even talking to me because you’re certainly not talking with me.

* This might be just ego or whatever, but please, read on before you judge.